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Unpacking the Reasons Behind Your Child's Lies


It can be incredibly disheartening to find out that your child has been lying. It's normal for children to test boundaries and tell lies, but it can still be difficult for parents to manage.


Let’s unpack why children lie and what parents can do to help their kids learn healthy coping skills.



The Science Behind Kids Lying

First, it’s important to understand the science behind why children lie. As humans, we are hardwired with certain emotions, including fear and shame. When a child is in a situation where they think they will be judged negatively or punished, they may resort to lying to avoid those outcomes. Fear-based lies usually occur when a child feels like they have done something wrong or is afraid of being seen in a negative light by their parents or peers.


Shame-based lies may arise when a child feels like they need to hide part of themselves from others due to feeling embarrassed or inadequate in certain areas. An example of shame-based lying could be if your child lied about getting an A on their report card when instead they received a B+. They may feel ashamed that they didn’t get an A and choose to lie about it rather than face the reality of their grade.



Parental Responses

It’s important for parents not to jump straight into punishment mode when responding to their child’s lies. Punishment often leads the child into further feelings of fear or shame, perpetuating the cycle of lying even moreso than before. Instead, try having an open discussion with your child about why they felt the need to lie and how you can work together as a family towards healthier solutions going forward. Explain that even though you won't always agree on everything, there's no need for them to feel scared or ashamed enough to lie in order for them not to disappoint you.


In addition, focus on teaching problem solving skills so your kid can build positive coping mechanisms outside of telling untruths. This means having discussions around different ways your kid can handle difficult situations without needing to resorting to dishonesty. Having these conversations will help nurture your relationship with your kid while also giving them the tools needed for future success as well as gaining greater levels of trust between one another over time.



At some point in life we all tell lies—whether big or small—but it's especially difficult when those lies come from our own kids! It’s important not only for parents but adults alike who interact with young people regularly, such as teachers and coaches, understand why children might turn towards dishonesty and how best we can help them cope with such feelings without punishing them further down the line.

By understanding the science behind kids lying and helping our little ones develop strong problem solving skills early on we are setting them up for successful relationships throughout life based on honesty which is key in any connection!


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